I am chronically depressed and have been since before age 12. I used to cut myself frequently, especially while drinking. I very rarely self-injure now, mostly because of the terrible scars I have. Most of my left arm is covered in scars. I found out after I started cutting myself more severely that I scar very badly. They are all lined up and parallel to each other so there is no way to blame them on a accident. The ones on my upper arm are the worst. They look like large red slugs. After years of healing, they are slowly becoming white and flattening, but they are thick and will always be noticable. I%26#039;ve finally tired of wearing longer sleeves in the summer and have decided to just wear what everyone else does. However, people, sometimes complete strangers, ask me what happened. I%26#039;ve even had people shout to me from across a store %26quot;what happened to your arm?%26quot; What should I tell these people and people I know?|||Tell them you%26#039;re an assassin, and that%26#039;s how you keep score.
And CHEER THE F** UP AND STOP DOING THAT!!|||tell the truth.|||I don%26#039;t want to talk about it, it%26#039;s in the past.|||I to have many scars, thought mine are from an illness when I was a baby, and when people ask me what happened I tell them, %26quot;if I get to know you well enough I will tell you, until then I choose not to talk about them%26quot;.
And like others have said, only the very rude will ask someone they barely know how they got scars.
There is vitamin E oil that will help them to become more elastic and heal better, the only true healing comes from within, you can get through this phase of life, just know that others care, whether they know you or not.
You will be in my prayers from now on.
L|||you had serveral surgeries, you had a bone marrow disease when you were younger, it was really serious........or you got into a fight with a tiger, you won the fight, and all the tiger did was slash your wrists 20 or 30 times.
or you could just tell the truth..........|||strangers dont need to know the truth just tell them is from a window or some thing but people you get close to should know the truth they might be able to help you with the pain youve been through|||i am sorry to hear of your pain. First of all, i hope that you have gotten the help you need in order to live your life to the fullest, and learn other ways of coping with pain. Depression is such a awful thing to have to deal with on your own and its hard for those who don%26#039;t have it to truly understand what it is like. Its up to you to tell who you want what you want, its your life, your body - your story. Maybe someday, the scars and the stories behind them can help others, maybe it will eventually help you heal. In the mean time, clothing helps, scar creams could help, talk to a trusted family doctor for other suggestions in healing scars... %26quot;its a long story I%26#039;d rather not get in to%26quot;, or %26quot; I don%26#039;t believe it is any of your business, but thanks for the concern,%26quot; %26quot; this is the way my arm is..%26quot; It%26#039;s all in your hands! Best of luck in getting through your depression - have HOPE, it CAN be BEAT!!!! You can do it! =)|||I say it depends on who is asking....
If it%26#039;s someone you know and can trust, then tell them the truth. You don%26#039;t have to get into all the details but something brief like %26quot;I used to cut myself back in the days when I used to drink%26quot; (or something like that). If they ask more and are truly interested and sincere, elaborate more.
If it%26#039;s someone who is rude or you don%26#039;t know them, then just joke it off and then change the subject.
Glad you%26#039;re not hurting yourself anymore! And the scars will fade over the years and plus there%26#039;s lasers nowaday that can help, if you choose.|||Ignore the people on the streets. But if a friend asks you, just tell them the truth, they will understand. But if you feel like you don%26#039;t want to explain it to them then don%26#039;t, you don%26#039;t owe anyone an explanation. Try using scar product like Mederma, it is great! It is number 1 recommended.|||Tell the truth when you think the truth might make a difference.
When it is just some busy body being nosy, make up something funny and light hearted to make them realize they were an idiot for asking you such a rude question.
I liked the idea about the assassin!|||Tell them that they are from a chronic illness and leave it at that. If they persist, tell them its too depressing to discuss.|||Tell them you saved the day at the grocery store. a little kid took his moms lighter and started the cart on fire. and you caught the cart before it ran into an older lady. and those are actually burn marks :-) problem solved|||Tell them what you just told everyone on here..the truth. I used to cut myself too and I started at the same age as you. I have just recently stopped but when people ask I tell them about it, theres no use in denying what they already figured anyways.|||Tell them you got the scars shoving body parts into a wood chipper. As you become less self-conscious about your scars other people will notice them less. I don%26#039;t know how that works, I just know it does.|||It%26#039;s rude to ask a person about their scars, especially complete strangers.
Tell them that.
None of your business, I%26#039;d rather not talk about it, things like that, can be said. If someone takes it personally, it%26#039;s their problem, not yours.|||when someone asks you a question-any question-that you are uncomfortable with, just turn it around and ask them %26quot;why do you want to know?%26quot;.|||ignore them|||Well, you could be like the politicians and be very economical with the truth. You can say, you had an accident and fell onto some sharp metal or glass.|||Ask them what happened to their manners. Then calmly explain that you don%26#039;t feel like explaining your whole life to a stranger, and thank them for their concern.|||ask them why they would want to know such a personal thing about you.|||Two words for you %26quot;Shark Attack%26quot; - if people press you for the story just tell them that it brings back bad memories and triggers post traumatic stress and you dont like to talk about it.
In all seriousness, I think you have asked a very good question. All the best in finding peace with the response that feels right for you.|||Just say it was something that happened in the past that you rather not talk about. It%26#039;s not any ones business.|||You can lie, but if the people are like me, we%26#039;ll know if you lie. I%26#039;m a counselor, and I%26#039;ve seen many self-inflicetd wounds. We%26#039;d probably just think you%26#039;re whacko and not bother to ask you about the slashes, so go ahead and wear short sleeves. No use covering them, heck, they%26#039;re battle scars. You battled yourself, didn%26#039;t you? You finally started winning those battles, didn%26#039;t you? Then you have nothing to be ashamed of. If you%26#039;re hot looking, I might be a little leary being with you. (fatal attraction).|||they say how did you get those/ what happened. you say shut up or your next and give them the crazy eye|||You do not have to explain yourself to anyone. I suffer from bipolar, anxiety and cutters. I have not self injured in a month. But when people ask me about my scars now, I ask them what would knowing what happend to me do for them. And walk away. Don%26#039;t let your pain be someones gain.|||Tell them you were inspired by the Movie Scarface!|||Good question...what does one say? %26quot;none of your business%26quot; or %26quot;let me tell you about the horrors of my childhood%26quot;...or %26quot;hey, i was in a dark place..%26quot;
i mean its no ones business. Do you feel compelled to give an answer to strangers?
you can say that it%26#039;s a symptom of a %26quot;condition%26quot; you had....
or I did it to myself...practice all the answers yourself to yourself to feel it out...find which one fits you.|||just say hey buddy its none of your buisness. If they get smart back just walk away.|||Make up a story! Make it interesting. Maybe involve a wild animal or a fight. The possibilities are endless and there are some great scar healers out there now. Check em out at a local drugstore near the bandaids.|||You are a survivor of a disease- depression. That is what you tell them. That you are a survivor and those are your battle wounds that got you where you are today. I am not saying that I condone this behavior but I do respect that some people do this because of an imbalance that cannot be helped. I know that you are feeling kinda ashamed by them but why? You went through something in your life and battled to get past it. Why hide who you are and what you have been through. Women who were beaten by abusive husbands are proud that they fought back, soldiers come home from war with scars of battle (not saying anything bad about them or saying they didnt do anything big just an example) and they wear their scars proudly, You should to. What you went through in your life shaped who you are and who cares what other people think? They do not live your life for you so wear your scars proudly and proclaim %26quot;I AM A SURVIVOR%26quot;|||I would probably ignore most of them. I used to cut myself when I was younger because I was dumb. I dont have scars like you, but I never really scarred easily. If I come across someone that I feel I should tell, then I would. Sometimes it can help a person. But if there are people shouting like that in a store, just look at them and let them know that they are very rude, and walk away. Who cares what everyone else thinks anyways. I am just glad that you dont do things like that anymore.
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